Don't avoid it....

"Don't avoid it, unless it becomes something to run from..."

I got this line from an episode of One Tree Hill.. which is a series i'm watching at the moment. I suppose a quote like this, or any quote for that matter, could be seen in different ways by different people. Everyone has their own perspectives on things.

To me, the meaning is more or less clear cut. Throughout our lives, we come across those situations, moments.. where we just think 'oh god.. no!' and decide to turn around, hide behind the nearest bush and pray that everything, whatever it is, would just blow over. But really, how many times have you tried this and it just never worked? How many times have you tried avoiding something, then when the time feels right for you, you come out of your hiding place, just to find that the problem has just grown bigger? Yeah, that's what tends to happen.. right?!

I could very well tell you that the best thing is always to face your problem head on, but we all know that that is one of the most difficult things to do. We prefer to choose what we think is the easy way out, and take a left turn in order to avoid that obstacle that's lying right ahead. Why can't we face our problems head on? So few of us can. We avoid them and make ourselves all the more miserable.

I know. I've been there. I've done that so many times. I guess i'm not as strong a person as i want to be. I always put up this... this mask you could call it, and try to pretend that everything is ok, but then there comes a moment when i just crack, and i tend to hurt the people i love the most. One such situation happened recently. I found myself in a situation (thanks to my bout of low self-esteem-ism) and instead of confronting that i myself had some kind of problem on my mind, i took out all of my anger on one of my best friends. I blamed her on something that really had nothing to do with the situation.. and she therefore obviously could not understand it. It was her that decided i needed to face my problem.. even though she did not exactly know this. She called me. We spoke. And i admitted what was on my mind exactly, and she helped me through it by giving me the will to try and solve my problem. Do you have any idea how good that felt?!

You should try it sometime.

Most things we try to run away from, but really why the hell should we run when we really don't need to run at all. One day or another, what we avoid will only come back to haunt us. I really do believe this. If you've got something that you wish to share but are dead afraid of doing so, be brave. It will definately be worth the effort and everything will fall into its correct place at some point. There will always be someone to help you on the way.

Sometimes, you just have to find that person.. that friend or friends :)